I haven’t been here for a while. I needed that time to rethink a few things.

I was planning my come back with a happy, cheerful post about my Indian dreams. I’ve almost finished it, but uploading it today doesn’t seem to be an appropriate thing to do. My mind is completely lost in something that has happened over the weekend in London…

I was in London that evening… Me and my husband attended our friend’s wedding reception. On the way back, we checked our phones, turned the radio on and realised what has happened just a few miles away. To be brutally honest, my first reaction was so plain and emotionless- just like I would read another gossip about celebrity. I said to my husband “Oo, listen, another terrorist attack in London”. Are we slowly getting used to reading about it? Is it becoming our common, weekly news? …

Only after a couple of minutes, it hit me really hard. We were planning to stay after the wedding in London next to Tower Bridge and spend Sunday roaming around our favourites spots- one of them is a walk along the Thames from Tower Bridge to London Bridge. At the last minute, we had to cancel our plans due to an unexpected work commitments. What if we didn’t cancel our plans, left the wedding 1-2 hours earlier and decided to enjoy Saturday evening (first in months without our child who stayed at home with grandma) by walking along the river and crossing it at London Bridge as always? What if…

We visit central London quite often. We love the area between the Tower Bridge and the London Bridge. We have such a fond memories from this place. Moreover, we have so many close friends in and around London who could be there that Saturday evening…

However, it’s not only about London. We travel a lot and we have been to many locations (sometimes exactly the same square meter) where terrorist attacks took place- New York, Paris, Stockholm, Brussels, Nice… Nice attack was the most traumatising for us. We have just returned from beautiful holiday at the French Riviera. We stayed in Nice for a few days and travelled along the coast to Monte Carlo, Cannes, Antibes, Vence, Grasse and others. Our hotel was located at the Promenade des Anglais and we spent a great amount of time walking along the Promenade. My son loved being there. He was running freely, enjoying the space and the weather. It was such a lovely, vibrant place. We walked everyday exactly in the same place where some time later a cargo truck will deliberately drive into crowd killing 86 and injuring above 400…[*]… I still remember the shock when I turned tv on and saw the massacre… My mind was still full of fabulous, fresh memories from that place and suddenly these terrible, unimaginable scenes are in front of my eyes…

I believe we are blessed and saved by God so far. But will we always be? Is terrorism something we have to get used to in our daily life? Should I call ‘lucky’ those who are safe and sound? or rather ‘unlucky’ those who lost their lives or got badly injured? …eh… Polish news channel taught his viewers on Sunday (a day after London Bridge attack) how to react and survive a terrorist attack- how to run & hide, escape, play dead or even put some blood on ourselves (from a dead or injured person next to us!!) in order to pretend a dead person. Apparently, terrorists don’t care about those who are already on the floor (dead or injured) as they want to maximise the amount of their victims- they just go forward ahead.  Some time ago, I would think it’s ridiculous to show or teach this on tv, but I don’t think so anymore. I am afraid the topic ‘how to survive a terrost attack’ will become a common subject on tv. I just hope it will never become a compulsary lesson in schools… Oh Lord.

The last terrorist attack in London made me feeling slightly more scared. I’m becoming extra vigilant. All these terrible and coward massacres were focused to attack our lifestyle- people enjoying their freedoms by attending concerts, national celebrations, restaurants, pubs etc. I know that this is want they want- they want to spread fear, they want us to feel scared.  Eh… Although neither I was affected personally in any of these attacks nor any of my family members/friends, they had a huge impact on me. I still stay strong with a very positive attitute towards life and our world. However, we (society) have to admit we have a problem. We have a problem that needs to be solved- quickly and effectively. I don’t want to hear about another lives that have been lost or wounded. I don’t want to hear about another massacre. I don’t want people to be scared, panicked and run in unknown directions everytime they hear loud bang. I don’t want to live in a fear. I don’t want my parents to be scared everytime we are out of house. I don’t want a world like that…

Rest in peace to all those who are not anymore with us [*].

Full and speedy recovery to all those injured/wounded. May God give you strenght and power. Never give up!

My deepest condolences and words of sympathy to all those who lost someone in these terrible attacks…

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18 thoughts on “Terrorism…

    1. Sadly, that’s true. These attacks create a lot of hatred and bad feelings. However, we have to remember not to generalise and blame for these horrible attacks only radical extremists or just people who blindly follow them (for no reason… ).


  1. As an Arab-American, living in the US which is awash with guns (concealed-carry, no less, in so many of our states), I have such a turmoil of feelings at each terrorist attack. I have the “please don’t let it be an Arabic name” reaction when the newscasters announce the terrorist(s), because I know how it will be taken by so many non-Middle-Eastern people–they don’t see that the overwhelming majority of Middle-Eastern/North African people are not committing acts of violence. I also have an added typical American fear–I am always figuring out ways out of malls, or classrooms, or movie theaters because here in the US, I realize I am much more likely to die in a mass-shooting by a lone gunman than by a terrorist attack. I work in schools, so we do “Lock-down” and “lock-out” drills because we have so many school-shootings. These are never called “terrorist” attacks–though I think that’s only because the shooters tend to be white Christians. But I rehearse where I would hide the children in my charge, and I note what objects I could use as a weapon to take down the shooter.
    I think the only answer to prevent these acts of violence is to somehow bring more people out of the shadows and into the fold of humanity, so that they never become radicalized or desperately mentally ill in the first place. If you have a life you love, or if you feel safe and not persecuted, you are less likely to go online searching for radicalizing philosophies. At least that’s what I believe.

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    1. Hello Michelle,
      Thank you for such a wise reply to my post. You are totally right in many aspects that you have mentioned. Unfortunately, for some people in the world a terrorist means a Muslim (of Middle-Eastern/North-African/Asian ethnicity). That’s a very very unfair statement, but sadly- true for some. However, not for me. I’m married to Asian (not Muslim, but Asian who might look like Muslim for others). I have many friends who are Muslims. We all gather together at the parties, we help each other, our kids play together, we go on holidays together. There is not equation that a terrorist must be a Muslim person. As you said, the overwhelming majority of Muslims are not committing acts of violence. They are peaceful people. Moreover, any person who shoots other for no reasons (a lone gunman or a group of gunmen)- regardless of their ethnicity/skin colour- should be treated as terrorist. Do you remember Anders Breivik? A white man who killed 77 innocent people in Norway- he is a disguisting example of terrorist.
      I’m shocked there are ‘lock-down’ or ‘lock-out’ drills in schools in the US. I’ve never heard or experience anything like that. You also note what objects you could use as a weapon to take down the shooter- OMG! That’s scary…. Scary to live in the world like that.
      I’m sorry if you have ever experienced anything bad because of your ethnicity. Try to remember that not everyone thinks bad about Muslim society. Extremism and radicalisation can occur in every religion. This has to be tackled from the roots. We have to solve this problem by searching for reasons why certain people get so quickly and so deeply radicalised. I believe, what you wrote 🙂

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  2. It’s so disturbing to realise the intensity with which these attacks are happening everywhere! I can’t bring myself to accept the fact that we are becoming more and more dehumanised with each passing day. Hoping that sanity prevails.
    What a beautiful place this world would be if we could all just love each other.

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        1. I wish I could answer your question… I wish I could tell you there is only 1 person- a leader- who plans all these terrible attacks. Unfortunately, I’m afraid all these extremists act kind of on their own or with a minimal support from the main ISIS leaders. Obviously, they receive a massive mental/religious support that makes them feeling they are doing something ‘right’… Crazy!


          1. No kidding. But you got people left and right blaming one and another because of their religion or race. When they aren’t even extremists themselves.

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  3. Marlena, I hear you. It is highly upsetting to hear of what has been going on. Manchester, London,…it is a worrying thing, isn’t it? It is such a dastardly thing to happen to any city, people, nation and the worst part is that there is no end to it. It all seems rather bleak but to counter the very nature of these attacks, I would say live each day to the fullest xx

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    1. Hello Arundhati,
      Always good to hear from you. Sadly, this topic has no pinch of positivity in it 😦 It’s really worrying. It can happen literally anytime and anywhere. But you are right- the only way not to get paranoid is to live normally and enjoy each day to the fullest. Carpe Diem my Friend!

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